Posts tagged loving your blended family as-is
Stepkids and double standard parenting

Do stepparents have a double standard when it comes to stepkids vs. bio kids? They do and they should, but it’s not the kind of double standard you’re thinking. Sometimes, taking a more flexible approach to parenting is ultimately the fairest answer.

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You don’t have to love your stepkid to be a good stepparent

As much as we're force-fed the bullshit assumption that every good stepparent unconditionally loves their stepkids from day one, that's NOT the typical experience. Love is a bonus, not a requirement.

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Why everyone in a blended family needs to let go of "should"

Is hanging onto your idea of how your stepkids "should" act or how a stepparent "should" feel about their stepkids keeping you from enjoying your blended family as-is? Don't get so bogged down by ideas of how your blended family is supposed to be (according to... what standards exactly?) that you lose sight of the awesome family you already are.

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Make 2 cakes anyway

What do I do when my stepdaughter hates me, even after YEARS together? I keep trying, stepparents. Because this stepmom gig is the long con, and I am determined to rise above.

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Does our blended family even count as a real family?

Ever feel like your blended family doesn't count as a “real” family? Yeah, that's me today.

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