The high road to nowhere

HCBM has started hugging us hello and goodbye, which I hate. Oh, so NOW we’re friends? After over a decade of high-conflict custody, poisoning SD against us, and generally making…

Stepparents: Are you overstepping?

As stepparents, one of the things we’re most often accused of is overstepping. A lot of time, this complaint is totally unfounded. But sometimes, if we’re honest, maybe there’s a…

Not a real family

Here’s something I’m struggling with today: that even after more than a decade together, my SD—apparently— still does not consider us her real family. Today my SD left for her…