More Help for Stepparents & Blended Families
I keep an ever-evolving list of helpful resources for blended families, especially those in high-conflict custody situations. I only include here the ones I've read or used (and liked) myself. Any suggestions on more links I should add? Let me know!
Resources Right Here
My top list of things we’d do differently if we could start all over again from scratch
Tips for dating someone with kids (also good if you’re new to stepparenting)
The Disengaging Essay - Explains the pressure cooker dynamics of blended family life and how stepping back can give you & your stepkids the room everyone needs to successfully blend
Not Your Circus, Not Your Monkey: The Frustrated Stepparent’s Guide to Disengaging - An ebook that answers the question “Yeah but HOW do I disengage?”
MORE Online Resources for Stepparents & blended families
Guided Meditations for Stepmoms from Anna de Acosta
Stepparent Magazine - a UK-based free resource for stepparents
Stepmom Magazine - requires a subscription
Find a Counselor - Find coaches and counselors who are certified by the Stepfamily Foundation, a non-profit established in 1975
Books for Stepparents & Blended Families
Note: These are stepmom-heavy, since that's what I personally have read. Stepdads, if you have any suggestions of books that have helped you, please get in touch.
The Enlightened Stepmother: Revolutionizing the Role - Realistic and no-nonsense
Stepmonster: A New Look at Why Real Stepmothers Think, Feel, and Act the Way We Do - Very well-researched, looks at the psychology of being a stepmom from a science-based perspective
Stepmotherhood: How to Survive Without Feeling Frustrated, Left Out, or Wicked - I like that this book also includes a chapter for husbands to help them get what their wives are going through
Books for Bio Parents in a High-Conflict Divorce
Custody Chaos, Personal Peace - A godsend for us personally—crammed with strategies, examples, and tips for dealing with shared custody with a high-conflict co-parent
Parental Alienation Resources
A stepparent’s guide to parental alienation - I have tonnnns more resources are listed here!
Divorce Poison: How to Protect Your Family from Bad-mouthing and Brainwashing - The leading resource on parental alienation
Adult Children of Parental Alienation Syndrome: Breaking the Ties That Bind - Hopeful long-term look at the effects of parental alienation, including healing the parent-child relationship later in life